Bamick, I am optimistic about the possibility of change in each topic area you mention.
Because of Birth Order, I feel fortunate to be at peace, despite a family that others would find extreme. Merely reading Birth Order's material leads to understanding oneself and others, which is a relief, despite bad circumstances. Knowing that I can recognize an abuser means I need not worry about inadvertently getting involved with that wolf in sheep's clothes ready to attack me unawares. This knowledge is valuable not only in romantic relationships, but also in business and social situations.
I'm happily married; discussing Cliff Isaacson’s birth order enriches our relationship. I highly recommend his book, BIRTH ORDER EFFECT FOR COUPLES, to anyone in or contemplating a relationship. It will open your eyes and change your life!
Many professionals take formal psychological study results seriously. Yet these studies do not take into account the different personalities, which cause these results to be skewed.
For instance, the media recently reported on a study about anger. The conclusions: it is a good thing to express anger, because afterwards the body's physical indicators showed a reduction in stress.
Correct me if I'm wrong, Birth Order, but it seems to me that this isn't true of everyone. For instance, consider the abusive personality: after father would beat me, he would calm down and seem to feel better--yet expressing his anger in this way was wrong no matter if it reduced his stress levels. For me, expressing anger would increase my stress levels afterwards because I'd feel bad for having done it.
Researchers try to make blanket conclusions that apply to everyone without considering differing personalities. No wonder we don't learn much from formal research studies. And no wonder the conclusions seem to be contradictory.
One day someone will apply Cliff Isaacson's personalities when doing research, and then the entire field will move out of the dark ages.
This one describes me throughout my childhood years. I got a double whammy from my father. First off he instilled the idea that you've gotta work hard and long. Then when I'd done that to accomplish something difficult, he never rewarded it, instead indicated it was worthless!
This one describes me throughout my childhood years. I got a double whammy from my father. First off he instilled the idea that you've gotta work hard and long. Then when I'd done that to accomplish something difficult, he never rewarded it, instead indicated it was worthless!
Thanks, psychovirus for identifying the personalities here. I had run out of time and felt my blog was already too lengthy, ha! I will write more about the lessons I've learned from my friends in later posts--stay tuned!
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Because of Birth Order, I feel fortunate to be at peace, despite a family that others would find extreme. Merely reading Birth Order's material leads to understanding oneself and others, which is a relief, despite bad circumstances. Knowing that I can recognize an abuser means I need not worry about inadvertently getting involved with that wolf in sheep's clothes ready to attack me unawares. This knowledge is valuable not only in romantic relationships, but also in business and social situations.
I'm happily married; discussing Cliff Isaacson’s birth order enriches our relationship. I highly recommend his book, BIRTH ORDER EFFECT FOR COUPLES, to anyone in or contemplating a relationship. It will open your eyes and change your life!
Comment written 2 years ago
Comment written 2 years ago
For instance, the media recently reported on a study about anger. The conclusions: it is a good thing to express anger, because afterwards the body's physical indicators showed a reduction in stress.
Correct me if I'm wrong, Birth Order, but it seems to me that this isn't true of everyone. For instance, consider the abusive personality: after father would beat me, he would calm down and seem to feel better--yet expressing his anger in this way was wrong no matter if it reduced his stress levels. For me, expressing anger would increase my stress levels afterwards because I'd feel bad for having done it.
Researchers try to make blanket conclusions that apply to everyone without considering differing personalities. No wonder we don't learn much from formal research studies. And no wonder the conclusions seem to be contradictory.
One day someone will apply Cliff Isaacson's personalities when doing research, and then the entire field will move out of the dark ages.
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Thanks, once again!
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Thanks, once again!
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